Friday, December 4, 2009
Finished...Finally!
Well, it seems that the formal education part of our lives is closing. Denisa finished chiropractic school this August and is now practicing near downtown, and I wrote the last paper of my master's degree this week. It's weird to think that in the almost 6 years that Denisa and I have been married one or both of us has been in school for all but a few months. When we first got married, both of us were working on our undergrad. After we both finished that Denisa started chiropractic school, and once I started coaching at HP, I started my masters. That's a lot of time, effort, and money that has gone towards little pieces of paper that now hang in our place and in D's practice. Thanks to all who has supported us through this process.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Bittersweet
The job that I enjoy so much is such a fickle profession. Whether or not we win a game on any given Friday night is determined on how well a bunch of 15-18 year olds play. Not that coaching has nothing to do with the outcome, but often times, the team with the better athletes will win the game. Now, I don't say all this to give up an excuse as to why the team that I coach lost last week. In fact, I'm not really sure why I felt the need to say that because our loss last Friday was a team effort. All parts of the team (coaches and players alike) felt that we had a superior game plan than our opponents; however, we were not able to successfully execute that plan and lost.
With that being said, let me talk briefly about the title of this post and why I named it "Bittersweet." The loss is both bitter and sweet; hence the word. It is obviously bitter because of the way we lost and that we felt we were the better team with a better game plan, but how can this event have a sweet part? Well, there are actually several ways:
1) Having been a part of high school football as a player who lost in the state championship game my senior year by 3 points to a team I, to this day, feel that we should have beaten, I understand the lessons that can be learned by losing a game in that manner. I will forever understand what it means to be gracious in defeat and how to overcome obstacles that feel like will impact my life negatively for a long time.
2) It is no illusion to any of you that know my wife and I, or that know any coach and their spouse for that matter, the amount of time that coaches spend away from their families game planning, practicing, at games, and watching film. The time commitment is large and sacrifice is great for these families. This is why I am so grateful to my wonderful wife who is so supportive of the path I have chosen. I spend much time away from her from August until the end of the season; so now that the season is complete, I get to see her much more often. This is also special because the extra time spent will be the last time we ever get to spend together with just the two of us. Come late February or early March, there will be a permanent addition to the Weber family!
With that being said, let me talk briefly about the title of this post and why I named it "Bittersweet." The loss is both bitter and sweet; hence the word. It is obviously bitter because of the way we lost and that we felt we were the better team with a better game plan, but how can this event have a sweet part? Well, there are actually several ways:
1) Having been a part of high school football as a player who lost in the state championship game my senior year by 3 points to a team I, to this day, feel that we should have beaten, I understand the lessons that can be learned by losing a game in that manner. I will forever understand what it means to be gracious in defeat and how to overcome obstacles that feel like will impact my life negatively for a long time.
2) It is no illusion to any of you that know my wife and I, or that know any coach and their spouse for that matter, the amount of time that coaches spend away from their families game planning, practicing, at games, and watching film. The time commitment is large and sacrifice is great for these families. This is why I am so grateful to my wonderful wife who is so supportive of the path I have chosen. I spend much time away from her from August until the end of the season; so now that the season is complete, I get to see her much more often. This is also special because the extra time spent will be the last time we ever get to spend together with just the two of us. Come late February or early March, there will be a permanent addition to the Weber family!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Cafe of Life
Denisa is now a part of the Cafe of Life on Swiss Ave...at least online anyway. She has been serving there for a while, but now you can see her beautiful face on the website. The new, updated website went online a couple of nights ago, and it's pretty sweet. I'm so proud of Denisa and her passion for serving others through chiropractic. The Cafe of Life here has been such a blessing for both of us, and now Denisa is serving there. What a great experience. Here's the link in case you want to check it out: http://www.cafeoflifedallas.com/.
Tristan
Tristan
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Fun times at the Webers...
Yes, I can post blogs as well:) Tristan has been quite the blogoholic and is always asking me to post more often because things change with us on a moment-to-moment basis. So here goes...
After being overwhelmed with morning sickness for 2 months, I am back to "myself" and am able to run errands, do activities I want to do, and most importantly...able to want and eat food!!:) I am so thrilled that I am pregnant during the fall/winter mainly b/c it includes holidays that involve lots of yummy foods!! This is going to be a "guilt-free" thanksgiving and christmas for me folks:) Tristan loves "pregnant Denisa" b/c she likes to have dessert (Tristan's favorite part of any meal) and likes to talk about food often. It is like there is another Tristan in the house!! Watch out we could be in a lot of trouble:/
We purchased a crib yesterday and assembled it last night. Correction: Tristan assembled it last night with only a little help from me:) He was reading the instructions while all the stuff was laid out on the floor...and he looked up at me and said "Wow. I can't believe we are doing this." We both laughed b/c it is just so surreal.
About 3 weeks ago I FINALLY could tell what a baby movement (quickening) felt like! I guess I was just passing it off as something else prior to then but now I know. Then a week later as I was going to sleep I could feel the "lil one" moving and wondered if I put my hand on my tummy if I could feel it. Sure enough, I could!!! Completely CRAZY! I woke Tristan up to feel it but of course it stopped:/ Since then Tristan has felt baby-Weber punch and kick quite a few times. I just got back from visiting my parents and grandparents in Round Rock this weekend and my mom was determined to see and/or feel the baby move. She put her head on my tummy and the baby kicked her in the ear!! Haha!
Since we are not finding out the sex of the baby until 2 nanoseconds after birth, we have chosen colors we thought could work for a girl or a boy: black, white, and lime green. My mom has already made all the bedding for the crib: bumpers, sheets, dustruffle, etc. and it looks incredible! She also has made the bassinett stuff as well since we are using the bassinett mom used for me and Allison. Oh, as if there could be more, she and my dad also refurnished an old rocking chair, painted it black, and recovered it with lime green fabric!! She is TURBO-Mom:) You would have thought the baby was coming tomorrow! haha! We are so grateful for all of the time and effort she has put into all these "projects" that she has loved doing.
I will be posting some "baby bump" pics soon as well as some pictures of the chair and crib bedding mom has made...so stay tuned:)
Peace,
Denisa
After being overwhelmed with morning sickness for 2 months, I am back to "myself" and am able to run errands, do activities I want to do, and most importantly...able to want and eat food!!:) I am so thrilled that I am pregnant during the fall/winter mainly b/c it includes holidays that involve lots of yummy foods!! This is going to be a "guilt-free" thanksgiving and christmas for me folks:) Tristan loves "pregnant Denisa" b/c she likes to have dessert (Tristan's favorite part of any meal) and likes to talk about food often. It is like there is another Tristan in the house!! Watch out we could be in a lot of trouble:/
We purchased a crib yesterday and assembled it last night. Correction: Tristan assembled it last night with only a little help from me:) He was reading the instructions while all the stuff was laid out on the floor...and he looked up at me and said "Wow. I can't believe we are doing this." We both laughed b/c it is just so surreal.
About 3 weeks ago I FINALLY could tell what a baby movement (quickening) felt like! I guess I was just passing it off as something else prior to then but now I know. Then a week later as I was going to sleep I could feel the "lil one" moving and wondered if I put my hand on my tummy if I could feel it. Sure enough, I could!!! Completely CRAZY! I woke Tristan up to feel it but of course it stopped:/ Since then Tristan has felt baby-Weber punch and kick quite a few times. I just got back from visiting my parents and grandparents in Round Rock this weekend and my mom was determined to see and/or feel the baby move. She put her head on my tummy and the baby kicked her in the ear!! Haha!
Since we are not finding out the sex of the baby until 2 nanoseconds after birth, we have chosen colors we thought could work for a girl or a boy: black, white, and lime green. My mom has already made all the bedding for the crib: bumpers, sheets, dustruffle, etc. and it looks incredible! She also has made the bassinett stuff as well since we are using the bassinett mom used for me and Allison. Oh, as if there could be more, she and my dad also refurnished an old rocking chair, painted it black, and recovered it with lime green fabric!! She is TURBO-Mom:) You would have thought the baby was coming tomorrow! haha! We are so grateful for all of the time and effort she has put into all these "projects" that she has loved doing.
I will be posting some "baby bump" pics soon as well as some pictures of the chair and crib bedding mom has made...so stay tuned:)
Peace,
Denisa
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Baby Weber
A few days ago, we got to go hear the baby's heartbeat for the 3rd time. Wow, to think that this little life is growing inside Denisa still blows me away. Our midwife has told us that everything seems to be going just the way that it needs to be. Denisa's bump is getting bigger and the experience is amazing everyday.
Tristan
Tristan
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Perfection
The word perfection usually is interpreted to mean that someone or something is without flaw. At the same time, we are taught throughout our life to see the flaws and imperfections in ourselves and others, and to strive to be perfect through any means necessary. Thus, creating a never ending cycle of disappointment when the impossible "perfection" is never attained. Some try to overcome their own self-created shortcomings by getting caught up in a variety of things. These, for many, are disguised as things that are necessary for becoming perfect. People bury themselves in their jobs thinking that with more money, or more of their co-workers thinking that they're doing a good job, that happiness and perfection with follow. For others it might be their religion and the idea that if I pass through the open doors every Sunday, I might someday be perfect.
The problem with ideas like this is that they are all outside-in fixes for something that must be inside-out. Perfection must be seen and acknowledged in our lives each day because every moment is perfect. Our bodies are adapting to everything that happens around us in the most perfect way it knows how. Sometimes this may be misinterpreted as negative. For example, when our bodies are invaded by the flu virus, it responds by raising the body temperature, making the body feel aches and tired, and often increasing the mucus production in the sinuses. For years, I wasn't able to see the perfection in this. I saw all these events as something preventing me from being perfect and feeling 100%. My reaction was always to take something to reduce the fever, stop the runny nose, and do my best to act like I felt fine. I would take steps to fix this "problem" that was being taken care of from the inside-out by a fever and rest, and would try the outside-in approach by masking the problem with medication.
Tapping in to our own perfection requires understanding that regardless what is going on around us, we adjust the best we can. Even when things don't happen they way we want them to, or in the time table that we expected, each event is perfection. I often tell the students that are in the P.E. classes that I teach that there is no sense in getting upset about something that someone else has done. We can only control ourselves and the way we react to their decision. Every time I tell them this, I need to take a moment and remind myself the same thing.
Tristan
The problem with ideas like this is that they are all outside-in fixes for something that must be inside-out. Perfection must be seen and acknowledged in our lives each day because every moment is perfect. Our bodies are adapting to everything that happens around us in the most perfect way it knows how. Sometimes this may be misinterpreted as negative. For example, when our bodies are invaded by the flu virus, it responds by raising the body temperature, making the body feel aches and tired, and often increasing the mucus production in the sinuses. For years, I wasn't able to see the perfection in this. I saw all these events as something preventing me from being perfect and feeling 100%. My reaction was always to take something to reduce the fever, stop the runny nose, and do my best to act like I felt fine. I would take steps to fix this "problem" that was being taken care of from the inside-out by a fever and rest, and would try the outside-in approach by masking the problem with medication.
Tapping in to our own perfection requires understanding that regardless what is going on around us, we adjust the best we can. Even when things don't happen they way we want them to, or in the time table that we expected, each event is perfection. I often tell the students that are in the P.E. classes that I teach that there is no sense in getting upset about something that someone else has done. We can only control ourselves and the way we react to their decision. Every time I tell them this, I need to take a moment and remind myself the same thing.
Tristan
Thursday, September 17, 2009
From 2 to 40 trillion
Watching Denisa grow a human inside her has been one of, if not the most, amazing thing I have ever witnessed in my life. I was reminded again last night of the amazing intelligence that creates that being. This baby started out as two cells and will form 40 trillion cells before it's all said and done! And, though the first cells were mine and Denisa's, this little one will be unique and unlike any other human that has set foot on the planet. The infinite creativity of God blows me away.
What confuses me though is that we will instantly give credit to a higher power because of the creation of unique individuals each second, but once these unique individuals are on this earth, we are constantly looking to meet the goals set before us by someone else, or by some societal standard. Why do we stifle our own creative juices, strive to live out our life according to someone else's timeline, and spend our lives doing jobs that we don't enjoy? At what point do we stop the madness and check in with who we were created to be? Live your dream daily. Today I choose to coach and teach because I love it and cannot imagine doing anything else...We'll see what tomorrow holds for me.
Tristan
What confuses me though is that we will instantly give credit to a higher power because of the creation of unique individuals each second, but once these unique individuals are on this earth, we are constantly looking to meet the goals set before us by someone else, or by some societal standard. Why do we stifle our own creative juices, strive to live out our life according to someone else's timeline, and spend our lives doing jobs that we don't enjoy? At what point do we stop the madness and check in with who we were created to be? Live your dream daily. Today I choose to coach and teach because I love it and cannot imagine doing anything else...We'll see what tomorrow holds for me.
Tristan
Monday, September 14, 2009
News and Updates
So the thought of having a blog is turning out to be much easier than actually keeping up with the blog. Just in case you missed all the happenings with us; here is what you've missed:
-Denisa and I are expecting a child around the end of February or the beginning of March!
-Denisa graduated from chiropractic school Aug. 15, and is now officially Dr. Weber.
-I am in the middle of football season and am spending many hours at school preparing for each Friday night. HP is currently 2-1 and we start district next week (9-25-09).
-We have moved from Addison and into the Big D. Denisa is 5 mins away from where she will be practicing and I'm 10 mins away from work. We love those commutes.
I'm sure there are many details I'm forgetting, but all in all, we are living the dream and enjoying every minute of it.
Tristan
-Denisa and I are expecting a child around the end of February or the beginning of March!
-Denisa graduated from chiropractic school Aug. 15, and is now officially Dr. Weber.
-I am in the middle of football season and am spending many hours at school preparing for each Friday night. HP is currently 2-1 and we start district next week (9-25-09).
-We have moved from Addison and into the Big D. Denisa is 5 mins away from where she will be practicing and I'm 10 mins away from work. We love those commutes.
I'm sure there are many details I'm forgetting, but all in all, we are living the dream and enjoying every minute of it.
Tristan
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Joining the masses
So we are finally joining the blogging trend:) It is getting close for graduation for me (Denisa) and this will be a great way to keep in touch with all my fellow graduating collegues and know what each of us is up to in our lives and families. So right now...I am about to take my last round of finals EVER this week and Tristan is still working on his Masters and coaching the Highland Park Scots freshman baseball team. And that's all I have for my first blog...off to study for one of the last times!! Woohoo!!:) Peace.
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